A reader wrote to me recently to tell me that the meaning has gone out of her life. She feels bored, with nothing to do. She has low energy and an inability to get herself organized. On the day wrote to me, she had spent the whole day in bed. She didn’t have the flu or anything; she just couldn’t find the motivation to get out of bed.
It seemed to me what was actually ailing her was a lack of purpose. Granted, everyone has his or her own definition of what constitutes purpose in life. However, within the context that she was sharing, it appeared her lack of purpose stemmed from having run out of goals.
Goals can be a double-edged sword. If you have too many, you feel overwhelmed and mentally fatigued. If you don’t have any at all, your life can feel like it is lacking a sense of direction.
I suspect she didn’t have meaningful goals to pursue that could motivate her to get out of bed and out the door. If she did, I have no doubt she would have had better things to do than write me a letter.
How about you? What meaningful goals are you working on to improve life for yourself and those around you? What’s that? You don’t have any?! Ugh! What are you waiting for? Perhaps you are waiting for a kind writer to give you some friendly suggestions to guide you. Ok, I accept.
I will share with you the personal steps I take when setting goals. These are not goals like running errands or getting through a daily to-do list. These are goals for creating a meaningful life.
1) To clear my mind, I sit in silence and allow myself to be still for 30 minutes.
2) Once I am in a peaceful state of mind, I ask my higher self what I can do to become a more loving person. This is based on my belief that love is the essence of my being.
3) Then I sit and wait for thoughts to come, or sometimes feelings. These thoughts range from something as involved as volunteering to feed the hungry to giving my senior parents a quick call on a cold night to see how they are getting along.
4) Lastly, I write down the details of whatever thoughts/goals have come to me. Otherwise, the information could be lost to time.
Everyone has their own technique for setting personal goals. If my steps do not fit your personality, that’s perfectly ok.
Today’s Loving Suggestion: There are many areas in life where you could think about setting goals: Social, family, financial, spiritual, health, career, romance, education, and recreation.
I think it is best to write down your goals. Somehow this makes them seem more real. I have my goals sitting on the nightstand next to my bed. I don’t read them each night, but I do review them once a week to make sure I am mindful of what direction I want my life to be headed.
You might want to answer these questions to help you decide which goals to set in each of the categories listed above:
Who would you ideally like to socialize with?
How do you want your family life to improve?
What income do you need to be comfortable?
What area of spiritual growth would you like to further develop?
What would be the most reasonable fitness routine for you each day considering your health?
What do you want to accomplish in your career?
What are the characteristics you most cherish in a romantic partner?
How do you want to expand your intellect?
How do you want to have fun in your free time?
These are just suggestions, of course. However, when followed, I think they can enhance your life and keep you from falling into that empty state of mind where you feel your life is devoid of meaning.
If you have followed any of the suggestions in the Sir Rennity feature, I would love to hear your stories. Please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. I will keep your letters private unless you request that they be published.
The Sir Rennity feature is intended to provide gentle guidance for your life. These articles hold no intrinsic meaning. You give meaning to them based on the value you place on them, so the words here are meaningless unless you put them into practice.